The Holiday season is supposed to be a happy time spent with family and your loved ones. However, this year, in particular, quite a few tragedies took place surrounding my family and friends of our family. It's really easy to lose sight of the good things in life in times like these but especially during Christmas.
Coping with loss of any kind is hard enough in itself, I myself am struggling immensely with seeing the positives and enjoying the precious time with my loved ones. So, here's a couple of things that might help you, someone you know and me to make this time that little bit more manageable.
Regardless of the darkness of this post, I want to take this moment to wish you all a Merry Christmas. Here's to everyone who didn't get to spend Christmas with a certain someone this year and here's to the ones we've lost. You'll always have a special place in our hearts and you'll never be forgotten.
Mary xx
Coping with loss of any kind is hard enough in itself, I myself am struggling immensely with seeing the positives and enjoying the precious time with my loved ones. So, here's a couple of things that might help you, someone you know and me to make this time that little bit more manageable.
1. Acknowledge the pain
I'm guessing that many people might think, that it's easier to numb the pain or try to ignore it altogether. But it's so important to feel the hurt and everything that comes with it as it's the only way you'll ever be able to move on at some point. Feelings are a crucial part of the grieving process, so please, don't hide from it. Trust me when I say, there's absolutely nothing wrong with admitting you're hurting.2. Check-in with your person of trust
You don't have to confide in everyone about how you're feeling or how you're coping with the situation. But to have at least that one family member or friend you can talk about it with is so very important. Especially once you allowed yourself to feel the pain, it's vital not to be alone when it knocks you down onto the floor. Check-in with that one friend and state it as it is, that you're not okay and could really use a friend right now.3. Don't forget to take care of yourself
As previously mentioned, it can be so easy to lose sight of things and hence forgetting that the world around you is still moving forward. Time can pass by rather quickly when you're sitting and staring into nothingness, trying your best not to crumble to pieces. Please make sure that despite everything going on, you take care of yourself, feed yourself, shower regularly, sleep enough and go for a short walk outside.4. Write down your feelings
If you're finding it difficult to come to terms with or you're overwhelmed with your feelings, then take a sheet of paper, a notebook or your diary and start writing. The beginning might be hard, so start off with explaining what happened and then the rest will flow out of you naturally. Sometimes it's easier to cope when you can see actual letters in front of you which confirm the ongoings rather than there not being any physical evidence at all which, inevitably, could lead to denial.5. Seek professional help
Probably one of the most important points of today is if everything aforementioned doesn't sufficiently help you feel better in the long run, seek out help from a professional. I know it might be hard to take the leap and go but you need to nurture your mental health and if you can't do it yourself, which is totally okay, then let someone help you.It's okay, not to be okay. - Unknown
Regardless of the darkness of this post, I want to take this moment to wish you all a Merry Christmas. Here's to everyone who didn't get to spend Christmas with a certain someone this year and here's to the ones we've lost. You'll always have a special place in our hearts and you'll never be forgotten.
Mary xx
